When Dogs Can’t Dog:
Understanding Dog-to-Dog Reactivity
It’s Not About Hate—It’s About Fear, Frustration, or Insecurity.
Not every dog wants to play, make friends, or share space with other dogs. And that’s perfectly okay.
Yet, when your dog barks, lunges, or freezes at the sight of another dog, many might label them “aggressive” or “bad.”
In truth? Most dog-to-dog reactivity is a stress response—rooted in fear, frustration, or past trauma.
Why does it happen?
- Lack of social learning: Puppies not exposed to calm, safe canine interactions may struggle to read doggy body language later.
- Negative past experiences: A fight, rough play, or even a scary encounter can leave long-lasting impressions.
- Frustration on leash: When dogs can’t move freely or approach naturally, frustration can explode into barking or lunging.
- Genetic temperament: Some dogs are naturally more cautious or defensive toward other dogs.
It’s not about dominance
It’s about emotional safety.
Reactivity is your dog’s way of saying:
“I feel unsafe. I need space. Help me navigate this.”
How can we help them?
- Rethink walks: Avoid forcing greetings. Let your dog observe from a distance they feel safe.
- Watch their thresholds: Learn when your dog starts feeling overwhelmed. Respect that space.
- Body language matters: Learn canine stress signals to intervene before the barking starts.
And most importantly…
When Should You Seek Help?
If your dog’s reactions feel intense, unpredictable, or are affecting your walks, home life, or social outings—it’s okay to seek support.
- When your dog’s body language shows panic, not just barking.
- When the triggers feel like they’re increasing.
- When your own anxiety about walks is rising.
- When you feel stuck or overwhelmed.
Working with a certified behaviorist can help you create a plan that’s tailored to your dog’s unique needs, triggers, and comfort zones.
You’re not alone—and neither is your dog.
Help is available, and it’s never about fixing them, but understanding and supporting them better.
